Don’t Turn Yourself Into a ‘Failure Magnet’

Now, before we go any further, I would like to make it plain that ‘She Who Must…’ is a very good driver. If you were expecting a typically ‘Tim-esque’ follow up to that last statement – I’m afraid there isn’t one. In fact I mention it only to illustrate that the unfortunate can occur even to the best of us…

You see, pure circumstance will have her queuing at the roundabout in front of the chap who is about to spill coffee into his lap, causing him to stab his foot down on the accelerator, or park in the exact place at the supermarket at which the new trolley boy finds out he can’t guide that many trolleys safely.

There really isn’t any explanation for it … (and even my reminding her that it ‘never happens to me’ doesn’t seem to help ;-)). And it would appear ‘She Who Must…’ is not alone either, and is what my insurance chap tells me is referred to within the trade as an ‘accident magnet.’

It can also feel like that with some things we do online, when something can go horribly wrong due to an almost unbelievable set of coincidental circumstances that leave you scratching your head, wondering if your efforts are somehow destined to failure  due to being cursed from on-high…

Well, despite what certain cheesy films may tell you, you cannot ‘expect the unexpected’ (though you can of course plan for as many eventualities as you are able) and sometimes things do not go to plan and you can end up with egg on your face, a hefty financial loss, some very unhappy customers, or if it’s a particularly special day … all three.

However when this happens (and it happens to almost everybody) … what happens is considerably less important than how you react to it.

If you give yourself permission to let a setback, regardless of size or severity to take control of your future outlook and feelings and ruin your chances of long term success, you will be turning a real chance to change your life for the better into a ‘long defeat’ where you can only see yourself doing the best you can against overwhelming odds on the road to eventual failure.

It should go without saying that this attitude will do you no good at all, as many (including myself) believe the secret to success, fortune and ultimately happiness is we become what we think about the most. If we highlight and internally focus on the negative, complain endlessly to whoever will listen and hone our misery further by hours spent dwelling in it we will become a more negative person … and attract more of the same.

Now, this may all sound like something from ‘The Secret’ … but that certainly doesn’t mean it’s not true. As you know, I frequently rub shoulders with people who would be considered by many as ‘successful’ and, almost without exception, they all display the same trait – not only that they consider it a key factor in that ‘success’.

Some seem to have more of a knack for it than others … and the rest of us have to discipline ourselves to do it – but we must learn to dismiss the negative as soon as the lessons are learned and focus on the positive in the situation to, in turn, become a more positive person.

Until Next Time,

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Tim Lowe
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Tim Lowe